Newsletter of The Tarot School
Vol. 14 #11 November 1, 2022
In this Issue:
- Tarot Tip: Relationship Readings –
- Wald's Words of Wisdom
- Diviner's Corner: Kau Chim / Lottery Poetry
- Meet the Reader: Dr. Heather Hardison
- Best Practices: 5 Simple Money Saving Tips
- Upcoming Events
Welcome to a new issue of Tarot Tips!
And a special welcome to our new subscribers.
This month you came from:
Brazil, Canada, India, Turkey, the
United Kingdom, and the United States!
We're glad you're here!
I remember them,
the ones I've loved.
Far too many have moved
beyond the veil which
separates us now.
But my love has found a way
to slip between its fibers
and follow them there.
Because love can be
in two places at once.
~ R.A. Amberstone
October 31, 2022
And one more thing...
As we head into the holiday season,
take some time to breathe and relax...
Be kind to yourself and the people
in your world.
If you're looking for a holiday gift
for a special tarot friend, consider
a class, course or reading from us.
We're happy to help!
Wishing you joy along the tarot path,
Ruth Ann, Wald, Gina and Sharonah
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Fear of Intimacy and Attachment Styles
by Katrina Wynne, MA, CTM, CTI, CLC
I just returned from the NW Tarot Symposium,
Portland, Oregon, USA, where I offered a
talk based on a classic question many readers
“Will (____) call me again?”.
If we can move beyond the “predictive”
aspect of this question, what I would call
the “symptom” of the relationship issue,
and take a deep dive into the “cause” of this
pattern, we might be able to really support
and help the client make better choices.
In my October 2022 article in this
newsletter, we explored X Wheel of Fortune
from the point of view of repeating habits,
patterns, obsessions, and addictions.
When a client returns for a Tarot reading
and presents the same basic issue, such as
waiting for their love interest to reach
out, this may fall into the definition of an
addiction, for the client continues to
engage in a painful pattern, but expects a
different result…as if they have no control
over their own life and need guidance from
There is a growing body of wisdom in the
realm of psychology called “Attachment
Theory”, basically, one’s ability, or lack
thereof, to bond with others, triggered by
early childhood experiences. This theory
deserves our greatest attention if we work
with relationship issues, but for the sake
of this short article, let’s look at the two
main “styles” that tend to get caught in
what I call the “Cha-Cha-Cha dance of
intimacy avoidance” and the one style that
keeps coming back for readings.
When the client is complaining about their
love interest not calling—after having such
a strong connection, they just disappear for
a while—there is a good chance that the love
interest suffers from the “Dismissive
Avoidant” (DA) Attachment Style.
The DA wants to have a love connection,
but is deeply afraid of losing that love or
being hurt, to the point that they withdraw
the moment they start feeling a connection.
They don’t have the emotional capacity to
sit with difficult emotions, much less
process the disappointment that their
partner may be feeling about their backing
What about the client, the one who is
disappointed and feels crazy for they know
they had a special connection, only to feel
pushed away? They feel desperate to make
sense of this sudden distance, and find
themselves reaching out more and more
to the DA, who keeps them hanging.
Symptoms of anxiety, and possible depression
can ensue. Chances are, the one who is
trying so hard to alleviate their anxiety by
coming to you for this reading is the
“Anxious Preoccupied” (AP) Attachment
Style…the one who keeps trying to continue
the relationship, despite the obvious
In many ways this is related to codependence,
which I highlighted in my article on VI The Lovers,
with Attachment Theory revealing the core
wounds that led to this Cha-Cha-Cha intimacy
avoidance relationship pattern.
Here are some key characteristics of these
two Attachment Styles:
Dismissive Avoidant —
• Cold and distant.
• Wary of commitment to relationships.
• Pre-occupied with work and hobbies.
• May be passive-aggressive, or have
Anxious Preoccupied —
• Can be anxious about their relationships.
• Greater need for reassurance and
• May invent or magnify conflicts or
difficulties in their relationships.
• Pessimistic or paranoid view of their
• Can act jealous or possessive.
As readers, I believe is it paramount that
we understand these relationship dynamics
so that we do not fall into the role of
soothing the AP, or enabling the
continuation of an old, hurtful pattern.
What if the reader has a blind spot due to
their own core wounds? “Healer heal
thyself.” After all, these relationship
readings tend to be the bread and butter of
many a reader…just sayin’.
I recommend the work of Thais Gibson of “The
Personal Development School”, and her book,
Attachment Theory, to learn more about the
four styles, their core wounds, and ways to
heal from these old patterns.
Katrina Wynne, MA, CTM, CTI, CLC
is an internationally renowned Transformative
Tarot Counselor™ and trained psychotherapist
with close to 50 years’ experience living the
wisdom of Tarot.
Contact Katrina at:
TarotCounseling.org - website
MySacredJourney.org - weblog
OracleSoup.org - podcast
Wald's Words of Wisdom
KAU CHIM / LOTTERY POETRY
Kau Chim or Kau Cim, also known as Lottery
poetry, is a fortune telling practice that dates
back to the 12th century, where a question is
asked to the deities. The querent purifies a
cylinder with bamboo sticks by revolving it
around an incense burner, mixes the sticks
by hand, then kneels and asks their question.
Upon shaking the cylinder, a single stick will
fall out, marked with a number. The number
corresponds to one of 100 unique oracles,
which provide the answer to the question.
The practice is often performed in a Taoist
or Buddhist temple in front of an altar.
Kau Chim Sticks predictions tell you what
opportunities you will come across in the
near future, and can also forewarn you about
the problems and danger that you face now or
in the future. Awareness of the situation is
meant to empower you to prepare ahead for
both the good and the bad times.
Kau Chim is often referred to as Chien Tung
or Chinese Fortune Sticks by westerners. In
the US, a version has been sold since 1915
under the name Chi Chi Sticks. Kau Chim
is also sometimes known as "The Oracle of
Kuan Yin" in Buddhist traditions. It is widely
available in Thai temples, known as Siam Si.
The similar practice is also found in Japan,
When I was young, my mother purchased a set
of "Foo Chu Ancient Chinese Fortune Telling
Sticks". This is another American version,
which was released in 1965 by Lakeside Toys,
and I still have it. As you can see in the
photo above, the set consists of a long
cylindrical cup or tube containing 78 bamboo
sticks printed with numbers and Chinese
characters. There is also a booklet of
interpretations. Each number corresponds to
a 6-line poem, a proclamation, and an answer
to your wish.
Here are a couple of examples:
The one who picks a "Forty Nine",
Was born beneath a lucky sign.
Don't be greedy,
Don't be grasping,
Play it fair,
You'll get all you're asking.
Ambition will slow you down, for a while.
ANSWER TO YOUR WISH
After some setbacks, you will get your wish.
Alas! Today you've drawn number "Seven",
Which indicates few smiles from heaven.
You go through life so very pleased
With what you say and how you act;
But more attention to others' woes,
Will make you happier, in fact.
You will get involved with a mysterious
ANSWER TO YOUR WISH
Your wish will be denied.
There's an online version here:
These fortunes are very simplistic compared
to the beautiful and enigmatic poetry of the
traditional version. For instance:
– Stick #2 –
The dead trees break into green once more;
The woods are alive with buzzing life.
The immortal peach tree gives forth its fruit,
And all the lost find their way home.
In this verse, winter turns to spring, and
new life is born. Your own affairs will
prosper in time, given the natural course of
things. All you need to do is let Nature
take its course; opportunities will
naturally come your way, especially with a
little self-discipline. Though your gains
will not be great, they will come steadily
and certainly, whether in business or in
personal relationships. Prosperity is just a
matter of time.
This is a vision of wonder and joy––not just
because spring is on the way, but because
the immortal peaches are ripe. This only
happens once every thousand years. All the
signs suggest that this is a most auspicious
So mote it be!
We’d love your suggestion or submissions
for this column! If you have an idea or would
like to contribute, please contact us at
Meet The Reader
DR. HEATHER HARDISON
By Sharonah Rapseik, Ph.D., CMAP
Dr. Heather Hardison is a Tarot reader /
consultant and Tarot blogger, shining light
on the Tarot as a healing and therapeutic
tool. She has been a clinical psychologist
in private practice in Tennessee for
fourteen years and is the host of the
podcast, “Healing Thru Tarot”.
Heather’s debut novel is The Call of the Cards.
This is Book One in her fictional divination
book series, “The Divining Sisters Series”,
which heavily features her favorite method
of divination –– Tarot.
Heather, what makes your tarot practice
unique and how do you express it?
My Tarot practice revolves around the
healing power of the Tarot. The wisdom,
knowledge, and symbolism in the cards
facilitates deep psychological work such
as shadow work, inner child work, and
Finding Tarot in 2018 after a health crisis,
sparked a spiritual wakening that changed
my life in many ways. After diving deeply
into Tarot, I launched a podcast called
“Healing Thru Tarot” to share my own
healing journey with the world. Its goal
is to inspire others to view the Tarot as a
psychological tool for self-reflection,
emotional healing, and personal growth.
By sharing my journey with the Tarot,
I hope to make Tarot cards more accessible
to those who are ready for deep healing
work. I believe that we can truly heal the
world by healing ourselves.
Thank you Heather, it’s been a pleasure to meet you!
To follow Dr. Heather Hardison:
Sharonah Rapseik is an Artist / Designer,
Author, Tarot Reader, Radio Host and
Producer for Psychic Talk Radio.
Visit her at:
Best Practices for Professional Readers
5 SIMPLE MONEY SAVING TIPS
FOR YOUR BUSINESS
By Gina Thies
www.tarotadvisor.com / www.facebook.com/tarotreaders
www.tarotcoupling.com / www.oraclesoup.org
Today the topics of inflation and increased
pricing has consumers and businesses alike
thinking about frugality. Business owners
have to cut costs and increase profitability.
At the end of the day, your business needs
a budget and savings plan.
Here are a few money saving strategies:
1. Tackle credit card debt or high
interest loans. Consolidation loans may get
you better interest rates. You might also
consider a debt management program.
2. Take advantage of credit cards that
offer cash back and reward programs.
3. Get re-rated. When is the last time
you reviewed your wireless, car insurance or
utility plans? Take a day to shop for better
4. Cut expenses. This may be a little
obvious, but think twice about expenses
such as office supplies. Then shop for the
5. Only keep business-critical services.
Research the services that are truly
necessary to run and protect your business.
These are only some of the things you can
do to save money when running your small
business. Check out the resources below
for more suggestions.
• 10 Cost Saving Ideas for Small Business Owners
• 20 Ways to Save Money for Your Small Business
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